{"id":11779,"date":"2011-03-17T02:15:34","date_gmt":"2011-03-17T00:15:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.world-citizenship.org\/?p=11779"},"modified":"2025-02-26T12:27:29","modified_gmt":"2025-02-26T11:27:29","slug":"self-compassion-a-healthier-way-of-relating-to-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ngo.heidi-barathieu-brun.ch\/?p=11779","title":{"rendered":"Self-Compassion &#8211; a healthier way of relating to yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>This website provides information about self-compassion, and is intended for students, researchers, and the general public<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Linked on our blogs with <a href=\"http:\/\/news.world-citizenship.org\/wp-archive\/3398\">The Charter for Compassion<\/a>.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Self-kindness. Self-compassion entails being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism.\u00a0 Self-compassionate people recognize that being imperfect, failing, and experiencing life difficulties is inevitable, so they tend to be gentle with themselves when confronted with painful experiences rather than getting angry when life falls short of set ideals. People cannot always be or get exactly what they want. When this reality is denied or fought against suffering increases in the form of stress, frustration and self-criticism.\u00a0 When this reality is accepted with sympathy and kindness, greater emotional equanimity is experienced.<\/li>\n<li>Common humanity: &#8230; (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.self-compassion.org\/the_three_elements_of_self_compassion.html\">full text<\/a>).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.self-compassion.org\/index.html\">Homepage<\/a>;<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.self-compassion.org\/lectures-workshops.html\">Upcoming<\/a>; <a href=\"https:\/\/webspace.utexas.edu\/neffk\/pubs\/listofpublications.htm\">Publications<\/a>; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.self-compassion.org\/suggested_reading.html\">Readings<\/a>; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.self-compassion.org\/test_your_self-compassion_level.html\">Test your self-compassion level<\/a>; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.self-compassion.org\/links.html\">Links<\/a>;<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.self-compassion.org\/contact_us.html\">Contact<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.self-compassion.org\/what_is_self_compassion.html\">Definition of Self-Compassion<\/a>: Having compassion for oneself is really no different than having compassion for others.\u00a0 Think about what the experience of compassion feels like. First, to have compassion for others you must notice that they are suffering.\u00a0 <!--more--><\/p>\n<p>If you ignore that homeless person on the street, you can\u2019t feel compassion for how difficult his or her experience is.\u00a0 Second, compassion involves feeling moved by others&rsquo; suffering so that your heart responds to their pain (the word compassion literally means to \u201csuffer with\u201d).\u00a0 When this occurs, you feel warmth, caring, and the desire to help the suffering person in some way.\u00a0 Having compassion also means that you offer understanding and kindness to others when they fail or make mistakes, rather than judging them harshly.\u00a0 Finally, when you feel compassion for another (rather than mere pity), it means that you realize that suffering, failure, and imperfection is part of the shared human experience.\u00a0 \u201cThere but for fortune go I.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Self-compassion involves acting the same way towards yourself when you are having a difficult time, fail, or notice something you don\u2019t like about yourself. Instead of just ignoring your pain with a \u201cstiff upper lip\u201d mentality, you stop to tell yourself \u201cthis is really difficult right now,\u201d how can I comfort and care for myself in this moment? Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with personal failings \u2013 after all, who ever said you were supposed to be perfect? You may try to change in ways that allow you to be more healthy and happy, but this is done because you care about yourself, not because you are worthless or unacceptable as you are &#8230; (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.self-compassion.org\/what_is_self_compassion.html\">full text<\/a>).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This website provides information about self-compassion, and is intended for students, researchers, and the general public Linked on our blogs with The Charter for Compassion. Self-kindness. Self-compassion entails being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism.\u00a0 Self-compassionate people recognize that &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/ngo.heidi-barathieu-brun.ch\/?p=11779\" class=\"more-link\">Continuer la lecture<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> de &laquo;&nbsp;Self-Compassion &#8211; a healthier way of relating to yourself&nbsp;&raquo;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[34,4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11779","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-a-verifier","category-project-partnership-good-work"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ngo.heidi-barathieu-brun.ch\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11779","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ngo.heidi-barathieu-brun.ch\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ngo.heidi-barathieu-brun.ch\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ngo.heidi-barathieu-brun.ch\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ngo.heidi-barathieu-brun.ch\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=11779"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/ngo.heidi-barathieu-brun.ch\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11779\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":17485,"href":"https:\/\/ngo.heidi-barathieu-brun.ch\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11779\/revisions\/17485"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ngo.heidi-barathieu-brun.ch\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=11779"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ngo.heidi-barathieu-brun.ch\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=11779"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ngo.heidi-barathieu-brun.ch\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=11779"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}